Can I ? NO!!

Are you freaking kidding me? People want change and then I hear them asking if they can have a soda, or whats the harm in a little chocolate.

Seriously have you spent the time to figure out what your caloric intake and macro needs are per day? Have you figured that going over once a day will add up over time?

Thats exactly what got you to where you are at right now!! Not knowing what you are taking in and why you are needing to cut some things out of your life style. You need to get rid of those bad habits and replace them with good ones.

No matter how many times you ask; 2 plus 2 is always going to equal 4.

I never weighed my self on the scale and never thought about what I was eating and what I needed to eat. I got up to 206 and was miserable at that weight.

It took a lot of hard work, learning what to eat and why and what not to eat and why I shouldn’t eat it. If someone is giving you a meal plan and a workout plan; don’t keep going back to them asking if you can add these things in. Do you want a meal plan and workout split that works while you can eat whatever you want? That doesn’t exist.

Stick with the plan and see your results, if you must add something in, you should know if it is going to work into your daily caloric and macros needs; if it doesn’t don’t add it.

Goal Weight

I often hear people talking about goal weight and to tell you the truth its pretty hard to determine a specific weight and body-fat percentage that you will feel comfortable at. I mean you really won’t know what you are going to look like at a given weight and body-fat unless you have a reference, someone the same exact size and proportions as you and you know what their stats are. I could say I want to be 190 and 7% body-fat but is that realistic for my frame and what would I look like?

In the beginning, I suggest making your goals close to where you are at and moving them in 5 pound increments when you hit your goals. If you are 150 and 7% body-fat and want to gain some more lean mass; start off shooting for 155 and your current body-fat.

Setting your goals for a huge difference from where you are at currently isn’t too realistic in my opinion; 10 pounds of lean mass on someone with a bigger frame wont look the same on you so it’s relative to how you look.

Once you have hit your goals consistently you will be better able to gauge what you will look like with another 5 to 10 pounds of lean mass or shedding another 5 pounds of body-fat.

If you are severely over weight; you may have a larger number of fat pounds that you want to loose. Try setting a larger goal with smaller intermediate goals of 5 or 10 pound increments.

Everyone around me wants me to fail!!!!

One thing I keep hearing is that everyone is trying to feed someone something they shouldn’t have. Enticing them to cheat, or for them to treat themselves just this one time. While one cheat really won’t affect your overall training, cheating every time someone feeds you this rationalization will.

I hear you and I get it all of the time. I get this from friends, Family, people at work; pretty much everywhere you turn there is something detracting from your success.

Why do you think that is?

I feel it’s because being fit is not the social norm, eating the way you do is not normal to most people including your family, friends, and loved ones. It might be what’s best for you, but it’s not normal for other people.

Try to understand that others really don’t get what you are doing and don’t try to change them and make them fit into your world of fitness and healthy eating. Definitely don’t dwell on what you feel they should be doing and saying to you. Just be strong and set your boundaries and let people know that you will eat what you want to eat and when.

I have even heard of some getting that their significant other suggested taking them out to a nice dinner since they have been doing so good with their meal plan or training. I don’t know about you but part of that dinner is spending time with that person, connecting with the person that loves you, the person that believes in you and the person that wanted to show you that they thought you were doing a great job. For some reason you have the feeling that they are against you and you’re getting upset with them since they offered to take you out for a nice dinner. How Dare They?

Remember its normal for people to do nice things for you and to show you their support in this way. You’re the one that has changed and you are the one that is different. Don’t chastise them or make them feel bad, instead find a positive way to tell them that you don’t want that as a reward or better yet; go with them and find something on the menu you can eat or go somewhere that has things on the menu that agree with your meal plan.

Last night I was out with friends and I would have preferred to not be at the restaurant we were but went so I could spend time with my friends. I sat there drooling over the pepperoni pizza sitting next to me. Did I freak out on everyone for ordering stuff that didn’t agree with my meal plan? Of course not, I ordered AHI tuna and enjoyed the little time I get to spend with my friends.

Now if they are walking around the house taunting you with a cupcake; that’s a different story. Go ahead and drop kick them. I think they might get the message.